Increase `http.max_header_size` default to 16kb (#88725)
Our current default for the http.max_header_size setting is 8kb. This
is lower than the current default for Kibana (16kb in 8.x), and the ESS
proxy (1mb based on the Go http library default). To align with the
current convention of other Elastic components, this PR increases the
ES header size setting default to 16kb.
Closes #88501